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How Job Interviewing is Just Like Dating – Job Interview Questions You Should Answer

I’m going to assume that at some point in your adult life, you’ve been on a date. And if not, we should talk. I’m an expert at first dates. Second and third dates, not so much.

On said date you probably, at some point, felt that you were on a job interview, which of course, you were. Job interviewing and spouse shopping are not that different. At both types of ‘interviews’ we’re on our best behavior, attempting to put ourselves in the best positive light, thus saying things we don’t always mean. “I love deep sea fishing!” “Cold calls are my middle name.” “Chick flicks are my favorite!” “Seventy-five minute commute, no problem.”

There are a handful of things job interviewers and daters want to know upon a first meeting. And savvy careerists and singletons should find a way to provide their ‘interviewer’ with this information.

Here are some common things job interviewers and dates want to know and typically find a way to ask:

Date Questions

Job Interview Questions

What was your longest relationship? Are you a job jumper?
Do you still talk to your ex’s? Can I call your last boss for a reference?
Who ended your last relationship? Have you ever been fired?
Does s/he think you’re hot?
Do you make a good first impression?
Are you geographically undesirable? Do you secretly want to work from home every day?
Do you smell good? Is personal hygiene an issue?
Will you be high maintenance? Will you ask for a raise two weeks after starting work?
Will my friends approve? Can I send you to a meeting with my boss?
Will you be high drama? Will I get calls from Human Resources about you?
Could this be a long term relationship? Are you promotable?


Don’t wait to be asked some of these job interview questions. Instead, offer the information without being asked. Explain before you’re asked why you left a certain job and what’s important to have in your next job. Find a way to slip salient details into your job interview questions, even if you haven’t been asked. You’ll put your interviewer’s mind at ease and might just land a job you really like.

Get our list of job interview questions for job seekers and interviewers here.


Shari Harley is the founder and President of Candid Culture, a Denver-based training firm that is bringing candor back to the workplace, making it easier to give feedback at work. Shari is the author of the business communication book How to Say Anything to Anyone: A Guide to Building Business Relationships that Really Work. She is a keynote speaker at conferences and does training throughout the U.S. Learn more about Shari Harley and Candid Culture’s training programs at

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3 Responses to “How Job Interviewing is Just Like Dating – Job Interview Questions You Should Answer”

  1. Randy says:

    The scary part of the whole thing is that we may spend a couple of years “interviewing” a potential spouse; we hire for a long term relationship after only a couple of dates!

  2. shari says:

    Thanks for letting us know. We’ll look into it. I’m glad you’re enjoying the blog!

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